Two: Lower expectations: If you are approaching a date in the same way you are proposing to marry someone then this creates an exagerated sense of significance. Consquently you experience unwarranted expectations that if anything will frighten your prospective date because they feel being encroached upon. Aim for small incremental goals that will not trigger any defense mechanisms from your date. Light introductory conversation and a few jokes are generally less invasive ways of trying to engage someone.

Three: Practice: The skills involved in dating often overlap with those in mundane daily interaction. Introversion and the social isolation which comes with it can often produce anger, tension and hostility. Needless to say this pre-empts effective dating. Concertrating on seemingly insignficant acts which seemingly have nothing to do with dating such as interaction with friends, co-workers gives one vital practice when dating does happen. Things like proactive greetings, maintaining eye contact and trying to strike up a mundane conversation can have a snowball effect by removing what seemed to be insurmountable barriers to interacting productively with a date.

Four: Anticipate the setting:Introverts operates across a narrower band of situations than extroverts. They are more self conscious and tend to shy away from large gatherings in particular where they feel uncomfortable in public. It is therefore important for introverts to understand and anticipate any defensive responses to certain situations. These situations can either used as avenues to grow by developing new patterns of behaviour or pre-empted by seeking alternatives. For example, certain people prefer dating sites rather than single gatherings or use one to build enough confidence to try another.

Five: Avoid feelings of desperation: Because introverts network less this limits opportunities leading to feelings of hopelessness. This self imposed isolation is exacerbated when introverts see others on a relationships while they are still alone. It is therefore vital that introverts pre-empt despair by networking which in this day and age is significantly easier due to to proliferation of dating sites, on-line support groups etc.

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