If you don’t listen to your date and respect their goals and aspirations then they most probably won’t listen to yours. If you don’t give something of value up front then you are far likely not to connect with your date. And all what is required here is simply to show sensitivity to the needs of your prospective match. There is no need to even share goals. The only requirement is to listen and empathise with the other person’s aspirations. Ironically it takes less energy to listen as opposed to talking. And by doing so you develop yourself in two ways.

First you increase your level of sensitivity to others.

Second, you show that you are worthy of respect by respecting others.