Often the dating process involves meeting a total stranger. It therefore often vital that you have to make enquiries about your prospective date to identify any issues which may cause needless pain later. However, people lack the skills to make effective enquiries. So here are four golden rules.

• Know what to ask
• Know how to ask it
• Know whom to ask
• And perhaps the most importantly, know how to interpret the results.

Remember the words we speak and hear are not based on reality but rather our interpretation of it. So before making any enquiries think before you speak for what you hear may very well decide