When you date someone you are dating an image of the person and not the person themselves. You do not see the person in others situations and consequently your perception of your date is often limited and misleading. The significance of any words spoken in a dating situation is often magnified. Without further additional information about the person any words spoken are over scrutinized and are giving meanings which were never intended.

It is therefore not surprising that any rejections, particularly if they occur, early in the dating process have little or not significance.

This does not mean that you should analyse what happened and learn from it. Rather you should not regard a stranger’s perception of you as a definitive assessment of your self worth. Remember, your